Yes, yes, I know I’ve just stolen a line from the Rizzle Kicks’ Lost Generation song but I think they have a point. Here’s what they say:
“Why is everybody so PC?
It’s not my fault if you take offence”
Recently there seems to have been a whole raft of popular blog posts which are essentially based on people taking offence to one thing or another and it doesn’t stop there. How many of you have noticed an increasing number of FB statuses from people moaning about something they’re offended by? I’m British for goodness’ sake, whatever happened to the stiff upper lip and not airing your dirty laundry in public!?! Ok, so that was a joke but seriously, have people always been so sensitive or is it just now that we have these epic moaning platforms that they feel the need to jump on any high horse that’s riding past?
If we really do live in an era and society of free speech then quite frankly, the person who offended you has just as much right to publicity as you do. Not only that, but why is everyone taking things so personally? Are people really so egotistical as to assume the “offensive comment / gesture / image” was aimed at them? Directly at them…by a complete stranger…really??? Like, really??? Perhaps people need to get a grip and understand their own insignificance a little more. What entertains one will not entertain all; in fact, some people might well find it distasteful. However, in my book that’s not really any different to the way that I loooooooooove chocolate fudge cake but my friend would rather have a pear compote or some other such vile thing for dessert. We have different tastes and like different things. This difference is what makes the world go round.
Yes, I concede that I’ve used a trivial example and sometimes people do deliberately set out to hurt other people. On the flip side though, it’s always up to the individual whether they choose to take offence or whether they just let it wash over them. You can’t really say somebody “doesn’t have the right” to say something because they do and most often, they already have. It’s done. If you wish to contradict their point then by all means do so, but stop banding around this”offense” that everybody seems to be taking. It’s not big, it’s not clever and nobody respects you for being “offended”.
And that was today’s rant. And yes, I did start a sentence with “and”. Twice! Deal with it x
I’m a huge fan of bargainous clothing and have no qualms about shopping in budget stores, including the supermarket but it’s rare that I find anything in my local Asda that I really love. That is until a couple of weeks ago when I came across a jumper that I literally cannot stop wearing, I LOVE IT! Here it is:
Eyelash Lip Print Jumper, £16
I’m not normally keen on these “eyelash” jumpers that have popped up everywhere but this one literally leapt off the rail and whacked me in the face. The lip print is delightfully 80s and it’s unbelievably soft and snuggly. I cannot get enough of this and for £16, it’s just perfect! As always with supermarket clothing, they come up slightly large so I’ve gone for the size 8 instead of a 10…just a note for anyone who yo-yo’s between sizes. That’s all I have to say for now, I literally just wanted to brag about my amazing jumper x
Sorry for my delay in writing but I don’t have the full Office suite on my work laptop and editing images seems rather tricky. By editing, I do just mean cropping as let’s face it, my images are pretty basic!
Anyhow, one of the things I was doing this weekend which meant I failed to post was making a cake with beans instead of flour. Yes, I did just say I made a cake with beans. I chose not to make mine dairy free but you could essentially make this a sugar-free, dairy-free, grain-free cake. The cake I made is sooooooooo super rich that it really needs cream or custard or something with it to break up the flavour but I think simply adding less cocoa powder would help.
As this isn’t really a cookery blog, I’ll just provide you with a link to the recipe on my other blog and tell you that this really is a moist, tasty cake and well worth a try. I’ve even had one of my male friends who is an awesome chef try it and he agrees that it’s good cake. Mine doesn’t look as pro as the original recipe but here are some images. AND HERE IS THE RECIPE – CLICK ME!
The Whole Cake
It Cuts Like Cake
Tastes Like Cake
Sorry about the grainy photography, it always looks so good on my phone! This is a seriously rich, tasty chocolate cake. It’s easy to make and perfect for those of you needing a healthier but devilishly tasty treat or anybody who’s following a prohibitive diet. Get baking! x
I know I’m a bit early but most people seem to be celebrating Halloween this weekend as it’s midweek and next weekend has been given over to Bonfire Night.
I love a bit of Halloween but then I love a bit of anything that involves dressing up and funny decorations so although I am sadly not attending any Halloween parties (boo), I couldn’t help having a bit of a browse of some Halloween fashion. Misguided have dedicated a whole section on their site to Halloween so I thought I’d share a few of my favourite bargainous costume-like pieces
Malvolia Skeleton Bodysuit, £14.99
Deina Lace Panel Maxi Dress In Black, £36.99
Geva Skeleton Ring, £5.99
I hope that whatever you get up to this weekend you have fun and stay safe, this is only the beginning of party season so don’t fall at the first hurdle! x
P.S. – Yes, black font is as wild as I could get with the formatting of this post to symbolise Halloween!
Hello and sorry for reminding you that you are old enough to remember singing along to the Spice Girls’ 2 Become 1 song! However, I think it brings me nicely to today’s topic…at what point should you sleep with someone for the first time?
Obviously I’m not talking about 1 night stands or people you are only interested in physically because I’m pretty sure the answer in those instances is that you should sleep with them as soon as possible. Why wait??? What I’m talking about is the people you meet who you think might turn into long term or forever types. I’ve not really ever given it much thought before but two people have mentioned it to me in the last week. One was somebody at the beginning of a relationship who was waiting in the hope things turned out better than previous relationships did. The other was a fellow single gal who said: “Apparently it totally changes the dynamic if you wait”. It was this that really got me wondering about “the right time”.
Those of you who know me personally will know that I have a very “male” attitude to sex in that I really believe if you both want it, you should just get the heck on with doing it! I don’t believe in waiting until the third date, nor do I think it’s slutty to sleep with a stranger / have a f*** buddy and I’m all for sleeping with somebody just because they are hot, you want to and it would be an achievement to get that notch on your bedpost. Before the world writes me off as terrible GF material, I should also point out that I also believe the best sex happens with people you know well and care about and if you say you’ll only sleep with one person, you should keep your word.
So, back to my original point, I haven’t ever tried the waiting game at the beginning of a relationship. In fact I’ve always believed it to be a good sign if you pretty much spend all of your time naked at the beginning and I place a lot of importance on sparks in the bedroom. Bad sex = bad relationship in my book. What puzzles me is quite how you build up any form of intimacy with someone if you aren’t getting naked with them. It’s not just sex that happens when you spend all that naked time together, you start to break down barriers and be a bit more open with the other person. In the chats between sessions you find out things about them, in the food breaks you find out what they like to eat…you get the drift. Personally I’ve never felt that comfortable sitting in a restaurant or a park or the cinema having an intimate conversation of any kind. Equally, don’t expect me to snuggle up on the sofa if I haven’t seen you naked, that just feels plain weird. (For 99% of the population, don’t expect me to snuggle up full stop. I’m nearly 28 and have only found 1 person I like to snuggle so far.)
Back to the waiting thig then, what are the bonuses of waiting? I’m racking my brain but I just can’t think of anything, however this may well be because I haven’t tried it. With my lack of will power it’s likely to be a man I’m not interested in that I try this on so I still don’t think I’ll have the answer! People who do the waiting thing, please enlighten me. I genuinely want to understand more about the mentality behind this and I’d also like to know what happens when you do wait, you start falling for someone and then you discover you’re totally incompatible in the bedroom. Don’t pretend like everything can be worked out, we all know some people just don’t do it for us! Talk to me, people! x
It’s no secret that I get far too excited about Christmas and start my celebrations at the time that everyone else is moaning about the fact that the shops have their decorations up already. So when I saw the Nails Inc Snowflake Effect nail polish, it was only a matter of days that I was able to contain myself before I popped into my local Debenhams and picked up a bottle to try out.
When you look at the bottle, it really does look like snow in a Nails Inc package so I was super excited to create snow on my nails I’d read that they recommended you try it out over a nude type colour polish to get the best effect but I decided that I should probably try it out over both light and dark. Here is the result:
As always with sparkly polishes, it’s lost some of its life in the photo-taking process but I think you can get the idea by looking at the nail with the black base.
It’s a great polish and I really like the effect on my nude fingers but I’m wondering if it would look even better on a white base so if anyone’s tried that, I would love to know. Like all polishes which have chunky bits in, it can be awkward to apply as it’s slightly gloopy, you want to get some sort of even distribution across the nail and have to dab the end of the nail to get rid of pesky sparkle overhang!
Overall however, when I look at my nails right now I feel like Christmas has landed so it’s done it’s job and I’d pay my £12 all over again to enjoy that if I had to
Happy shopping! x
Today I thought I’d get back to my foundation hunt and update you on another of the products I have tried; this time it’s the turn of No. 7′s Stay Perfect Foundation.
After reading loads of great reviews about this foundation I figured I may as well give it a go. I don’t usually like No.7 products but I think this stems from an allergic reaction to a face wipe years ago so the time has come to try again. What really persuaded me to try it though was that they had a buy one, get one half price offer on their make-up and I needed a mascara too. (Review of the mascara later.) Anyway, I went to my local Boots and had the lady use the colour match gadget thingy to tell me which colour I should have. The answer was Calico but I don’t like to look as pale as I really am so we went a shade up to Cool Vanilla.
In the shop I only had a small patch tested on me but I couldn’t really see it so I was happy enough to try it given the small amount of money I’d be parting with. The next morning I woke up excited to try out my new foundation but unfortunately that excitement didn’t last long.
I pumped the liquid out onto my foundation brush and then tried to sweep it across my face. I say tried because this stuff is horribly thick, it really requires lot of effort to get it evenly distributed. I ended up using far too much make-up because it was just sticking to my face even though I’d just used a primer. Nevermind though, at least it was on.
Then I got to work and the natural light in the ladies’ here is brilliant…sadly for me. I realised the colour wasn’t just a shade darker than my skin but was actually brown. BROWN! Where the make-up had been so difficult to apply it was also very evident where I’d not quite got it perfectly right as my skin shone through like the moon at night. I looked plain dirty. This reminded me that the previous reason I hadn’t used No. 7 was because their foundations tend to run dark which is clearly not ideal for me.
I tried this for a few days to see if I could get used to it but the application was just as bad with or without primer, nevermind the colour issue. I’m not a fan and I would not recommend anybody try this out unless you’re trying to mimic some sort of skin condition!
Never fear though, there are more positive reviews to come on my foundation trail and believe it or not, I have actually found the one! x